How to recognize and deal with anger

Can You recognize an angry face from these pictures?

Everyone knows what it feels like to be angry. But not everyone knows the causes, effects and ways to control anger. In other words every one manages angry differently.

 

Anger is an emotion related to one's psychological interpretation of having been offended, wronged, or denied and a tendency to react through retaliation. Anger can be described as a normal emotion that involves a strong uncomfortable and emotional response to a perceived provocation (Videbeck 2001). Anger usually develops in response to the unwanted actions of another person who is perceived to be disrespectful, demeaning, threatening or neglectful. Anger involves certain styles of thinking. For example,” my professor disrespects me in front of my classmate. He shouldn’t be so disrespectful!”  Data indicate that about 25 percent of anger incidents involve thoughts of revenge such as, “I am going to make fun of my professor.” 

The effect of anger in families is usually apparent in the way that members relate with one another. anger happens in daily life among family member.

There are several positive aspects of anger. Anger can be an appropriate response to injustice. For example, in the social movements for equality for blacks, the elderly and women, among others anger played a big role. Anger may also lead to better outcomes in business negotiations as well as an increased motivation to right the wrongs we see in the world. Anger tells others it is important to listen to us – that we feel agitated and it is wise to be alert to our words and actions. It may also lead to compliance by others. Strongly asserting that we were first in line at a store counter may lead to better service. Another example of the positive part of anger, children are more likely listen to us when we are angry. “Don’t play with matches!” when said angrily to a small child, can be lifesaving.