Sex Trafficking

What is Sex trafficking?

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Sex trafficking is a modern-day form of slavery.

When we hear the words "sex trafficking," as Americans we immediately think of women and children overseas who are being forced into the sex trade or who are brought into the United States for the purpose of sexual exploitation. We don't usually think closer to home. For example, young women we have seen late at night in the street, maybe in short dresses and spikes when we come home from work or a social event. Those women are maybe being forced to be out in the street. Maybe we think this is what they want to do or they wouldn't be out there. Maybe it is easier to believe that it is an empowering choice they have than face the harsh reality of child sexual abuse, physical and mental abuse, and the pimps that prey on the young women and girls. To understand all aspects of sex trafficking in the United States, we have to open our mind and let go of what we have seen or heard on television. I truly, believe that the American is too tolerant of human traffic for the purpose of prostitution, especially undocumented immigrant’s victims. Those victims don’t have any choice because they are undocumented. They don’t want express their feeling to the authority against the trafficker, who most of the time are documented. The federal government’s failure to address the illegal alien dilemma creates and perpetuates an environment in which exploitation runs rampant. There is much information that we do not know about human trafficking due to the secretive nature and fear of the victims involved. The victims live in fear.

Effects Of Anger

 

This image of  the brain shows the junction of the Ancient Brain and the Limbic System. It is a group of cell collection entities important in Anger--the Hippo campus, Hypothalamus, and the Amygdala. Together they help regulate emotions and memory. Individuals operating out of their Omnibus Brain possess a Hippo campus which is ever vigilant in bringing into awareness "common sense" things to do and not do for self-protection; develops clues for how to recognize relatively safe/unsafe circumstances; and forms new memories related to avoiding the problematic.

There are a few potential health consequences of anger. When we become angry, the autonomic nervous system (sympathetic and parasympathetic) is aroused. For example, the first time you discovered your wife secret’s affair your sympathetic nervous system reacts to the perceived situation. These physiological reactions can lead to increases in cardiovascular responding, in respiration and perspiration, in blood flow to active muscles and in strength. As the anger persists, it will affect many of the body’s systems, such as the cardiovascular, immune, digestive and central nervous systems. This will lead to increased risks of hypertension and stroke, heart disease, gastric ulcers, and bowel diseases, as well as slower wound healing and a possible increased risk of some types of cancers.

Finally, some evidence suggests that violent video games and, perhaps, listening to angry music with violent lyrics may fuel anger and aggression in some people. A few steps people can take when dealing with anger among family members or friends. It is easier when dealing with anger with strangers then family or fiends. With a strangers, it is easiest to use strategies of avoidance such as escape, relaxation, cognitive restructuring and assertive expression.

Directly facing all problems may not be the best solution. Sometimes, avoiding an interaction that is likely to lead to anger is best. For example, allow a spouse to deal with an unfair store clerk or a disruptive child. Relaxation is a great tool to deal with anger. Take deep breaths and focus on allowing the muscles to voluntarily relax for people who like music, Soft music often helps. Recognize that others do good and bad things. This is also a way to solve problem with direct related family members.

 

 

 

How to recognize and deal with anger

Can You recognize an angry face from these pictures?

Everyone knows what it feels like to be angry. But not everyone knows the causes, effects and ways to control anger. In other words every one manages angry differently.

 

Anger is an emotion related to one's psychological interpretation of having been offended, wronged, or denied and a tendency to react through retaliation. Anger can be described as a normal emotion that involves a strong uncomfortable and emotional response to a perceived provocation (Videbeck 2001). Anger usually develops in response to the unwanted actions of another person who is perceived to be disrespectful, demeaning, threatening or neglectful. Anger involves certain styles of thinking. For example,” my professor disrespects me in front of my classmate. He shouldn’t be so disrespectful!”  Data indicate that about 25 percent of anger incidents involve thoughts of revenge such as, “I am going to make fun of my professor.” 

The effect of anger in families is usually apparent in the way that members relate with one another. anger happens in daily life among family member.

There are several positive aspects of anger. Anger can be an appropriate response to injustice. For example, in the social movements for equality for blacks, the elderly and women, among others anger played a big role. Anger may also lead to better outcomes in business negotiations as well as an increased motivation to right the wrongs we see in the world. Anger tells others it is important to listen to us – that we feel agitated and it is wise to be alert to our words and actions. It may also lead to compliance by others. Strongly asserting that we were first in line at a store counter may lead to better service. Another example of the positive part of anger, children are more likely listen to us when we are angry. “Don’t play with matches!” when said angrily to a small child, can be lifesaving.

 

 

 

The Impact of Language on our live.

                                       The Impact of Language on our live.

Language is an integral part of our existence and survival. We depend on it to think and communicate on a day-to-day basis and from person to person. Without language, people would not be able to communicate. I believe that language plays a big role in determining  what type  of person  someone is, generally, and it has an effect on choices, as well as lifestyle. Because language is part of our culture, it has become a way of seeing life in a different perspective. Based on the different languages we speak, our perception and/or thoughts of the worldmay improve or change shape. In other words, languages give birth to a worldview.

    

ACT is an approach defined in terms of certain theoretical processes, not a technology per se. Figure 1 illustrates the core processes that are thought to underlie psychopathology. Each of these processes emerges from characteristics of human language and cognition, as specified by Relational Frame Theory.
From this theory's perspective, the most dominant characteristic of human language and cognition is that it is based on learned, relational, and arbitrarily applicable operants, that in turn impact other behavioral processes (Hayes et al., 2001). 
Our cognitive processes are directly linked to the words and symbols we call language. Language can alter the way we think or even control how we encode and decode information. Language can in fact have the ability to do all those things; it can change our values, our identity and even what we can and cannot know. Thus, this would lead to the conclusion that the death of a language “marks the disappearance of a world view.” For example, I speak English with a French accent. In my daily life, I have to cope with such questions; Where are u from? Are you from Nigeria, Ghana etc?  Whenever I say no I am not from the African Continent, they are shocked and then they are curious to know where I am from originally. Based on these experiences, I believe that this linkage can be used to promote racist, sexist, or other discriminatory ideas.

People make assumption based on the language he or she speaks. As another example, if you don’t speak perfect or Standard English, you must be a foreigner or someone with no intellectual background or degree. I don’t think that because I cannot speak the English language to perfection that makes me less intelligent than someone who is born in this country and understands and speaks English fluently. I believe that we should not judge others based on their languages
 

  

My First "CULTURAL PLUNGE"

          Cultural Plunge

 

A cultural plunge is individual exposure to persons or groups markedly different in culture. from the image above is showing the person is plunging into the water, so cultural plunge is  plunging, mixing, interacting within anothers' culture.

 Second assigment for my personal development class is a "cultural plunge".I found the idea of a “cultural plunge” experience, to be a very glamorous one. Participating in a cultural or social experience outside of my  comfort zone is an ideal way to learn about people unlike me , people with other background ,and  beliefs as my. I came up with many ideas for my plunge, ranging from going out to visite a Mexican church, attend a Muslim service, or going to an African church.

               Discussing the experiment with my wife and friends opened my eyes to just how prejudice we are, almost unconsciously, when we are talking about other groups of people. Especially religions; I got many reaction about visiting a mosque, such as a Christian, cannot go to a mosque. Upon analyzing each idea, I thought about what the people might think of me or how they may or may not include me in their service. Each of my concerns stemmed from some preconceived notion I had about that “type” or “group” of people. I too was judging and stereotyping these groups of people before I even knew them, only relating them to my previous assumptions. I believe these assumptions primarily developed from the images I have seen in the media. (Also from my family, friends, religions, and educational systems).

        Finally I choose to attend a church service that is attended by   Ghanaian, Nigerians, Togolese, and Sudanese in City Height. I have chosen that church to clarify the bias/stereotype I had about African Churches. The things I have heard from the media. I believe that cultural group holds different beliefs, values, or has different behaviors than me in some way. I spent 2 hours during the church service. I  Praise and worship the Lord with them. In the beginning I was a little panic.
     
            Naturally,  I am a intimidated person when it comes to first time interact with strangers; I was acted as an observer, but by the time I really interacted with them I felt different, I didn’t feel as stranger any more.  I found that the ambiance was very calm in the beginning, because that is not the way I use to start service. By the time they started with their animation I found it very pleasant, their music, songs etc. What I really pleasant found, when it’s time to worship everybody stand up and worship very loud, for a while.

            My first assumption about that church was   that I thought I wouldn’t understand what they would do, because I don’t understand their language.  And furthermore, I thought they would call me to present myself. I was a little scared of that, because of the language differences, style and / or method of presenting oneself. I was concerned about if my style will fit in their style or not. My assumption was wrong, they don’t even call me.  I know that they would welcome me and my family since I knew that  there will be mostly black people there; there was no doubt in that. After the church service was over, a lot of people came to us, hug me and my family. I felt very different, I felt home even I don’t really understand everyone, but there were a few people who speak English. I shared my phone number with them. I disclosed myself with them. I found that they were very open to share their valuable information with me, a stranger, for the first time. 
         
           Further more, I   found the best way to understand a culture, is to interact with the people in that culture. Then it will be easily for you to put yourself in others shoe, to understand ,  judge them better rather assume. If you believe in diversity, you should try to intercat with people from different culture.

 

UBUNTU " SPIRIT OF PRODIUCTIVITY "

 

 

Do you ever discourage someone from doing something wrong? Or what about helping a stranger who’s in need? Let’s listen to the former South African President, Nelson Mandela from the video above.

“Traveler through a country would stop at a village and he didn't have to ask for food or for water. Once he stops, the people give him food, entertain him. That is one aspect of UBUNTU, but it will have various aspects.  UBUNTU means that people should not enrich themselves. The question therefore is: Are you going to do so in order to enable the community around you to be able to improve (Mandela 2006)"?

UBUNTU, a traditional African philosophy, defined as communicating, caring, and sharing with humans in harmony with all of creation. Whenever you believe you can be better at something by grouping with others, you act interdependently. UBUNTU is a way people connect to each other regardless of race, skin color, social status; beliefs etc. sharing is an important Human value. We have different qualities, talents and resources and these should be shared in a spirit of cooperativeness for positive living. Everyone will cooperate as sharing human beings and will be mutually fulfilled. UBUNTU brings people together; it is a way people react to each other in diverse situation such as social, political, economic situation. UBUNTU is the opposite of wrong, selfish, greediness etc. Take care of your family, love your girl, and/ or your direct relative is not UBUNTU, It is your responsibility to take care of your family. Applying UBUNTU is helping unknown people who are in need. Another example of UBUNTU is when someone acts upon deeply a sense of being connected to each others by common humanity; when we feel interdependence, not ignorance; when we feel ourselves as others, love each other as we love ourselves.

 

UBUNTU is clearly visible in religions for example, there is a verse in the Bible; you shall love your neighbor as yourself. Again the spirits of dignity are demonstrated by the religious. There is no dominant and subordinate group, no one dominates the other. UBUNTU embraces the hospitality, caring about others, being willing to go extra mile for the sake of another (Dorothy R.Jolely 2011). A person is a person through other person. I also see UBUNTU when we act interdependently; we know that we can achieve things easier, better, when we connect to others by working together through our commitment.

 

“If you want to go fast…go alone. If you want to go far…go together.” —African Proverb. there are alot of things we can learn  this nice African proverb.  My father always tells us ( me and my brothers) by working together  make the work  lighter.

UBUNTU is very important for productivity, when we respect each other regardless, race, gender, color, when we cherish human dignity, all of our relationships and the level our behaviors and actions are raised to a higher standard of our product.

 

I work in lemon grove care as a nurse assistant, sometimes I get 15 people to take care. It is very hard to take care of 15 dependent patients, sometime it seems impossible, but when we work together, we help each other. It is possible to get things done on time and correctly." a task is easier if you work together" or "many hands make light work. Another example of  UBUNTU, TELA, The exponential learning academic, the scholars connected to each other by working together, something we get a lot of home for only one person it should be very difficult, but by working together from the beginning to end, we all were able to pass the classes successfully. By standing together, enjoying and celebrating together, a spirit of cohesiveness is established.

WE all need to apply UBUNTU because it will help us realize that we are equal in every sense. That sense will increase productivity at work, school, home, and also creates better relationships among colleague. I believe that we should apply UBUNTU in our daily life in diverse situation.

 

Identity !!!!

My identity and my personality development have been influenced by my family and surroundings-the environment. I perceived myself the way others perceive me. My family has a big impact on me. For example In my family I am the only one who finish High school. specially my mom always perceives me as her smartest child. Because she perceives me as her smartest child, it  motivates me more at school.


The looking-glass self by C. H. Cooley is a very good example of how I perceive myself through the society, through others' view. C. H. Cooley has summed it up in his statement: "I am not what I think I am and I am not what you think I am; I am what I think that you think I am." Charles Horton Cooley in 1902 (McIntyre 2006), states that a person's self grows out of society's interpersonal interactions and the perceptions of others.

 
 The term identity refers to people shaping themselves based on other people's perception, which leads the people to reinforce other people's perspectives on themselves. People shape themselves based on what other people perceive and confirm other people's opinion on themselves. Cooley clarified it in writing that society is an interweaving and inter working of mental selves. It is always good to management other perception of you.

The environment and the society we live in, our relationships, the choices we make define our "Identity".According to this definition it is very valuable to know your identity, this will help you determine your choice. It is also good to know how other people define your identity, how others see you. Remember you are not what you think you are,but what they think that you are. I would never be who I am now without my surrounding, without my family, education, my environment etc. Finally We can not avoid the influence of genes on personality because it is built within us . My family remains the most important factor no matter what. So, try to provide your children a better environment to grow up in order to become a better person.